I Stepped Down from Leadership—Because the Culture Wouldn’t Let Me Lead

Key Takeaway
Toxic culture doesn’t just make sustainable leadership improbable—it makes it ineffective. Over time, it erodes the systems that allow for smooth transitions, leaving leadership roles untransferable and stalls organizational momentum.
As an advisor to CEOs on leadership effectiveness, corporate governance structure and process, I’ve built a business on the foundation of helping business owners and boards align their organizations for sustainable performance.
I understand how to structure teams, clarify roles, and cultivate accountability. So, when I accepted a volunteer leadership role with a community-based
non-profit, I assessed what I thought the key risks were. I asked questions and paid close attention to the answers I received. But I miscalculated one critical thing: the non-profit’s culture.
What I encountered was a deeply toxic environment. Board members were operating in silos, triangulating communications instead of addressing issues openly and directly, resisting any form of accountability or structure.
Simple questions were met with outrage. Insecurity ran high. Undermining behavior was the norm. It didn’t take long for the organization’s toxicity to start taking a toll on my mental health, energy, and sense of purpose. Eventually, I stepped away.
What I experienced firsthand is something I’ve long coached CEOs and boards to avoid: a toxic culture. When an organization’s mission, vision, and values are not aligned across the organization—from the boardroom to the front line—culture breaks down and everyone suffers. Again, I’ve helped countless CEOs and boards address and prevent toxic culture, but it’s still painful to experience it firsthand.
At our firm, we emphasize a governance model grounded in five key pillars:
- Defining a clear and compelling mission and vision.
- Establishing values that actively guide behavior—not just hanging aspirational messages on a wall.
- Prioritizing organizational culture as a strategic asset.
- Communicating clearly across all levels of the organization.
- Aligning goals and actions with the organization’s purpose.
When these five pillars are established, the CEO can lead with clarity. More importantly, everyone from employees to clients to board members can thrive. But when these pillars are out of alignment, dysfunction spreads. Performance suffers. Trust erodes. Morale collapses. And even the most capable leaders begin to question themselves.
Toxic culture makes leadership ineffective. Over time, it erodes the systems that allow for smooth transitions, leaving leadership roles untransferable. Organizational momentum stalls and leadership is no longer sustainable.
If you’re a CEO or executive leader confronted by a toxic culture, consider the following actions:
- Don’t assume you can “fix” a toxic culture through sheer force. You’re a leader, not a savior.
- Observe, document, and clarify. Then decide: Do I build a micro-culture I can protect, or do I walk away?
- Never sacrifice your integrity, mental health, or values just to maintain a role in an organization that’s not aligned with your values.
Strong culture isn’t just a feel-good idea. It can make the difference between thriving and burning out, whether you’re a leader, a staff member, or a stakeholder.
This brings me back to the non-profit board I recently stepped away from. Volunteer organizations have stakeholders too: the members who give their time, the communities they serve, the donors who contribute, and the board members themselves. When a toxic culture takes root—even in a volunteer setting—it does real damage. People stop giving. Trust dissolves. Impact shrinks.
The truth is, even with good intentions, a broken culture cannot be led effectively unless the people within it are willing to change. Let me be clear; when I stepped away from the board I mentioned I wasn’t quitting. I was acknowledging the desire for clarity. I was also seeking alignment with my values as a person and as a businessperson. It reminded me that the same principles our firm brings to companies—alignment of mission, vision, values, and culture—apply everywhere we find ourselves in leadership positions.
Conclusion
When true vision, alignment and leadership are in place at an organization every stakeholder wins. But when those pillars are absent—to paraphrase biblical scripture—the people perish. Where would you rather work or volunteer?




